In my quiet time a couple of weeks ago, I heard a question in my heart: "Who's on your squad?" I'm not a sports fan (generally) so the term "squad" is not a regular part of my vocabulary. There is a connotation about the word that I get, though. The implication of a squad is that of an elite group of people who can work together and get important stuff done. So when I heard the question I thought, "Do I even have a squad? And do regular people like me need one?"
A SQUAD is defined as a small group of people having a particular task; a small number of soldiers assembled for drill or assigned to some special task, especially an infantry unit forming part of a platoon; a group of sports players or competitors from which a team is chosen.
Three things stood out to me in this definition:
A small group: I don't get the impression a squad needs to be large, like a multitude or something.
A particular task: Squads don't seem to be random but are made up of people with skills to accomplish a task they together are uniquely equipped to do.
Assembled; Now this could be a problem. If you assemble a squad based on your needs, fears or insecurities they could wind up co-signing your dysfunctions rather than pointing you to your potential greatness.
So how do we determine who should be our squad, or how to evaluate the squad you have. Here's an acronym that might help.
Secure enough to let someone else shine. (Paul sent Timothy to encourage churches at least three times in scripture: 2 Cor. 4:17, Philippians 2:19-20, 1 Thessalonians 3:2). Those on your squad are secure enough to let you be great; and you must show the same security towards them.
Questions – They have the grace to ask you the hard questions. Those assigned to help you achieve your purpose should be able to ask you hard questions and expect an answer.
Uncompromising in their stance. When your squad is sure of their assignment with you, they won't compromise that position even when it gets uncomfortable. They will risk your displeasure to tell you the truth.
Assignment: Your squad is not in your life for window dressing but are on assignment. Their personality, giftings and weaponry are for your benefit. Their job is not to make you look good, but to BE good.
Don’t misuse them! Some of us go after people because of what they have (gifts, popularity, money, influence) and get offended when they don’t respond the way you think they should. Take time in prayer to find out about the people around you and who they are to you.
Evaluating your squad is much more about evaluating your choices of the people in your life than deciding what's wrong with your friends/team. In Re-Writing The Script, I talk about the three kinds of people in your life: those in your sphere of influence (you may never meet them), those familiar with your shell (they know what you do, but not why), and those who know your substance (your squad). Make sure you put the right people in the right place in your life.
Michele Aikens is a Transitional Life Coach. You can reach her at Contact@micheleaikens.com.